I figured I’d update you on my little online dating experience. I decided to try match.com for 30 days. I’ve been dabbling in free sites and honestly, most of the guys I’ve come in contact with only want sex and it’s starting to annoy me. Like, if I wanted sex that bad, I wouldn’t have to go online to get it. Really? Try a Friday or Saturday night in downtown Boston. Even the 2’s and 3’s can get laid on those nights. Even though I’ve been so against paying for a dating site, I figured that more men who actually want a relationship would be willing to actually pay for it.
I’ve been on Match for 4 days now and it definitely has a good mixture of pros and cons. First off, I cannot BELIEVE these men PAY for a dating site and STILL MESSAGE YOU “HI.” Honestly? No. You couldn’t be more creative than that? At all? That’s quite the possible reason these men are still single. Another thing I didn’t like was that it shows when people look at your profile. And not just when they look at it once-every time they look at it. Sometimes I need a good two or three times to really look at these guys’ profiles before I message them-I don’t need them thinking I’m a stalker. Besides getting bombarded by people sending me messages and “winking” at me (Like, really?), I haven’t found anyone yet who I’m interested in and who is interested in me just the same. One thing I’ll say about Match- after one day of going through the men I found attractive, they seem to have picked up my style and every morning when they send me my matches, at least half of them are totally my type. It’s only been 4 days, so I’m keeping positive about finding a few possible matches-I just have to be patient.
The only reason I’m a little relieved about the lack of connection on Match is because I have three (Yes, count them, THREE) dates in the next week and a half that are left over from the other dating site I tried. Dating stresses me out as it is, and now I have three of them in a row?! Thank God none of them are serial texters because I couldn’t handle having three different conversations with three potentials.
How does everyone else do it?! I don’t want to push the dates too far into the future. I don’t want these guys to think I’m a flake, but I also don’t want them to know I’m jugglin’ three of them. I’m supposed to have my first date tomorrow, but I think I’m going to push it to the weekend because I have too much stuff to do before Pennsylvania next week. So technically after I change that date, my first one is Thursday with The Ex Realtor. He’s a 30 year old tall, dark, and handsome man who used to be a realtor (thank you, Google) but he’s now a bartender a few towns away from me. I don’t know much else about him besides that. I’ve found in my experiences with online dating that no matter how much or how long you talk to someone, you really don’t know them until you meet them. Might as well save all of the small talk for the actual date. It’ll be better than trying to come up with any other ice breakers seeing as how usually I’ve been talking to them non-stop for weeks about absolutely everything. Nah, I’ll keep the mystery alive this time. So, I’ll be seeing the Ex-Realtor on Thursday for some drinks. Nothing like a big glass of Jameson on the rocks to calm the nerves. Here I go again.
P.S. For a single lady, I feel kind of ballin’ with my three dates. Chyeah.